How to approach women
Just approaching women is a point of anxiety or nervousness for most men. this stems from a guy not being entirely certain that the approach will result in a positive outcome (a phone number, plans for a date, hook up, etc). With the right attitude and things to say to her, any guy can be a pro at approaching women.
Here are the four most important things to remember when approaching a woman.
Always approach a woman within seconds of seeing her
This is extremely successful for a few reasons. First off, it gives the woman you are approaching the impression that you spontaneously noticed her and didn’t lurk off in a corner planning the perfect way to hit on her before saying hello. Women are much more comfortable and feel safer with you if you just started talking to them by chance when you noticed them.
Secondly, hyping yourself up over approaching a girl or trying to work up the courage or confidence to talk to her after you have already noticed her does much more damage to your game than just approaching. Going up to her within seconds of seeing her will help you to be more relaxed because you haven’t spent the past 10 minutes waiting for the perfect opportunity or coming up with a plan to hit on her. Instead, you have no desire for a particular outcome because you haven’t planned it out. This allows you to be free, in the moment, and able to approach the girl with less nervousness.
Seem like your only going to talk to her for a second
Even not so attractive women get hit on more than a guy can understand. Because of this, women often think “how long am I stuck with this guy” as soon as they are approached by anyone. Most guys will approach a woman, and stick to her like glue forever just hoping that she will start liking them.
Be the exception to the rule. Within seconds of beginning a conversation with a woman, mention how you have to get back to your friends in a second, or how you have to get up early in the morning, so your going home to sleep soon. This lets the woman know she is safe talking to you, because you have to leave in the next few minutes and wont suffocate her all night. You can then use the next few minutes to get her intrigued by you and then she will be trying to convince you to stay at the party, or introduce her to your friends.
Forget the standard questions
too often men think the way to approach women is to seem sincerely interested in them and ask them standard questions that she has heard over and over. When a woman encounters a guy like this, she only hears “I have nothing to offer, or anything exciting to say, so tell me everything about you so that we can keep this conversation going”.
Always know what your going to say to women before you go out that night. Plan an opening line such as: “Hey I need a female opinion before getting back to my friends really quick. My good friends ex girlfriend is here tonight and he wants to ignore her all night, but I’m the one that introduced them a year ago. Am I supposed to have my friends back and ignore her, or do I be friendly with her since I knew her first? I’m sort of torn.” She then starts asking you questions about how close you are with your guy friend, when the last time you saw the girl was, and all the sudden you find yourself having a normal interaction with this girl.
Asking an obscure opinion like this is different than the same old shallow talk she’s had all night, and it actually can tell you allot about her relationship values, outlook on life, and personality in a round about way. These types of ways to open a conversation skip all the boring social norm questions that we’ve all been asked a thousand times (what’s your job, where did you grow up, etc.)
Notice something about her
After you have approached her and she’s in the middle of telling you that you should be buddies with the girl, or that you should have your friends back (or responding to whatever situation you posed to her) Notice that she looks like a cartoon character or that she seems like the mother hen of her group of friends. “Wow, you really seem like you deal with relationship drama allot, you totally seem like the mother hen and all of them (motioning to her friends) are like your little ducklings with all these relationship issues. haha”. She’ll laugh or chuckle slightly and you can get on with more normal conversation.
Throughout the first few minutes of your approach, you should be turned slightly away from her as if you could leave her and get back to your friends at any time.
Finally
Coupled with learning how to gain confidence with women, these four pointers can get you through the actual approach, and into the part of a conversation where you actually start attracting a woman. To put your dating life on steroids and genuinely attract any woman that you want, check out Double your Dating.