What to say to women
I’ve seen studies that claim even mildly attractive women get hit on upwards of 7 times a day. Most of the time the things guys say to women are “how are you doing”, “how was your day”, “whatsup” or some other generic greeting that she hears 49 times a week (I did the math).
For the best info on what to say to women check out Dylan Sauders website They Hate The Game. His website is the best I’ve found on this subject.
Everything that you say to a girl should add value to your conversation and make you stand out from the 48 other guys that she will interact with that week. The absolute best way to do this is to tease and flirt with her in ways that no other guy does. I’ve taken the three most common situations I get asked questions on regarding what to say and given you some nudges in the right direction. The text message pointers at the end of the article are especially golden.
1. What to say to a woman when you first meet
Act relaxed and cool, but with a hint of excitement and positive energy. Extensive studies have shown that up to 93% of communication is non-verbal. That means that what you say to a woman has to be complimented by body language that attracts women and vocal tone that conveys confidence. Just having these two things down can put an attractive frame around nearly any words you say to a woman.
approach her and her group and come in saying something neutral like: (while smiling) “hey my group of friends and I are having a bit of a playful disagreement and I’ve got to get back to them with an answer” You‘ve in effect just told them “Hey, Im socially normal, I have friends that Im here with, I have better things to do than come over and try to latch onto your group, and I just need your input really quick and then Im outta here”.
Once you have their attention, say something like “Would you ever date your step cousin?” (here they may say mixed things, or just look surprised, but just continue) “Because our good friend Dave was just introduced to his step mom’s sisters daughter and they hit it off like crazy, now the daughter wants to move here from New York to be with him.” Keep in mind you are conveying all of this in a fun, half joking way, like you can’t believe your friend may be dating his step cousin. Women talk about relationships much more than men, and I’ve run into plenty of situations where we’ve used this opener, and a woman has offered up a story of someone she knows that was in a similar situation. Regardless of what she says in response, you are now in a conversation with her, and she doesn’t even feel she’s been hit on. Feel free to use this approach with any sort of relationship drama thats going on in your social circle.
2. What to say to a woman when you call her
It is incredibly attractive to a woman when a man can carry a conversation well. When you call her the first time and she answers, tie back to the previous conversation when you met. Whenever I meet a girl I like to find an excuse to give a girl a nickname, and she will usually give me one in return. For example, I met a girl the other day who wore so many gold and silver bracelets that every time she moved her arm, there was a really loud jingling sound. You can guess what I nicknamed her. I told her I was going to call her jingles because she had the loudest wrists of anyone I had ever met. The first time I called her, she answers and I say “Jingles, whatsup?” And she immediately remembers who I am, no awkward “Hi, Im Dave, the guy you met at wherever”. I automatically establish familiarity with her and were flirting right off the bat.
After a brief laugh, I go into a new conversation thread. “So the craziest thing happened to me” and tell her a funny entertaining story like how you saw a woman crash into a guys car at a stoplight, get out and start arguing with him, slap him, then all the sudden they were making out in the middle of an intersection. You get the idea, just come up with the most entertaining thing that happened to you that day, share it, and then after a laugh, she will start telling you about her day that was not nearly as exciting as yours.
3. What to say when you text a girl
If your having a hard time getting ahold of a girl on the phone, or if you just love texting more than anything, there are things to text a girl that will stand out among the other 49 guys she’s gotten texts from that week.
Remember my girl jingles? i texted her the following a couple days after meeting her. “Jingles! hope your not making to much noise at work, I’d fire you if I was your boss” . She replies: “what? you’d fire me, so mean”. I then reply: “Well if the constant jingling annoyed the office, yes, but I can tell that beneath all the accessories, your probably a decent person”. She replies: “haha… your so funny” and we kept on texting and eventually started dating.
The key is to be attracting her at all times, never texting the average “hey, how you doing” etc until later in the relationship. another good example of a text I could have sent to jingles is “ Jingles, I just heard a car crash and it was almost as loud as your bracelets”. Send something funny and entertaining that ties back to an inside joke you had when you met her, or at least ties back to the place you met her, using some type of humor. The type of text teasing that I did with Jingles is actually the cornerstone of flirting. Your always teasing and your always having fun.